Top Ten Ways To Get Rejected By Your Dream Agent


Last week, West Coast literary agent Pam van Hylckama Vlieg was in her car on the way to pick up her daughter at school when she was suddenly attacked by a man wielding a baseball bat. He started banging her head against the steering wheel and ran off only when her dog bit him in the arm. This was no carjacking or random attack. Just hours after the attack, police arrested a man who had written a threatening letter after his work was rejected by the agent.

Before we go any further, let’s take a moment to say hats off to the dog, a Jack Russell terrier, I believe. Dogs should be standard issue for literary agents.

I was doubly shocked by this attack. First because I felt for and identified with the agent. I don’t know Pam, but I was a literary agent myself for many years and, like most agents, encountered the occasional unhinged writer. I was also shocked, with true writerly egotism, because the story so closely mirrored the plot of my upcoming novel, A Dangerous Fiction. In my version, a New York agent is stalked by a writer furious at being rejected, whose behavior escalates from harassment to sabotage to violence. The police were not as quick in my story to discover the culprit as they were in real life; but as often happens with fiction, my villain was smarter. The real–life attacker left his name and address in the agent’s files.

The day after the real attack, my e-mail box was full of messages from people who had read proofs of my book – – several fellow writers and people from Viking, my publisher – – exclaiming about the coincidence. The coincidence was indeed surprising, the attack wasn’t. Writers take rejection very personally, they get a lot of it, and it has a cumulative effect. Since agents are regarded as gatekeepers to the promised land of publication, they often bear the brunt of writers’ frustration. Their role is not unlike that of unfortunate Walmart employees tasked with keeping order outside the store on the morning of Black Friday. Not for nothing do agents barricade themselves behind assistants, answering machines, and form letters. Rejection is never fun for anyone, and a little distance can make it easier to bear. But for someone who’s unstable, that distance in itself can be a provocation.

I hope I don’t need to tell anyone reading this post that pounding the head of a potential agent into a steering wheel is not the best way to gain representation. It is in fact so counterproductive that one has to wonder whether the attacker actually hoped to succeed. Most writers, when they set out to gain representation, really do want someone to sell their book. There’s plenty of good advice available for these writers, including these articles and resources. But there must also be some writers who fear success and are determined to sabotage it. Perhaps being rejected plays into their self-image as misunderstood geniuses. So for those who are determined to fail, here is a list of the top 10 ways to get rejected by your dream agent:

1. Be crazy. If you harbor conspiracy theories, make sure to share them in your query letter. If you have the solution to the world’s problems, let the agent know. If your novel was dictated by any alien, occult or deceased beings, this is vital information for your literary representative.

2.  Be creative. There are plenty of ways of skinning a cat. If an agent won’t take your phone calls, find out where she lives and drop by. Send her gifts. Let her know she’s special.

3. Get cozy. Call the agent by her first name. Let her know you’ve done your research, not only into what genres and authors she represents, but also where her kids go to school, her mother’s nursing home, and her Social Security number. This will impress her with your research skills. Don’t hesitate to share your own personal story with her, as well. If you’ve been unjustly incarcerated or hospitalized, discuss it in the query letter and let her know you’re fine now.

4. Pattern Your Book on Current Bestseller. Why argue with success? Originality is for losers; you’ve worked out a formula that guarantees you a spot on the bestseller list.

5. Send your first draft, hot from the word processor. Don’t sweat the small stuff, or the big stuff, either. Editors exist to clean up in the wake of geniuses. Let them earn their keep.

6. Rules are for suckers. Real writers are nonconformists. Check out the agent’s rules for submission, by all means, but do your own thing. If he asks for a query of one page, write six if you need them. If he asks for a chapter, send the whole manuscript. You know he won’t be able to stop reading once he’s begun. You’re just saving a step.

7. Explain how much money your book will make them. Agents are idiots and don’t know what sells. Show them they’re dealing with a savvy customer.

8. Carpet bomb the industry with generic query letters. Just because an agent asks for scholarly nonfiction is no reason not to give him a chance at your paranormal thriller. Plus, agents are idiots. They’ll never know.

9. Promote yourself. Query letters are sales pitches, after all. Tell them you’re the hottest thing since sliced bread and John Grisham. Compare your work to the top-selling books out there and explain why yours will leave them in the dust.

10. Insult the agent. They’re sick of toadies. Some clever sarcasm and home truths will win you their respect.


The good news for those seeking rejection is that the odds are in your favor. Incorporate a few of these methods into your pitch and success is guaranteed.

A DANGEROUS FICTION is out, published by Viking/Penguin! In addiiton, Barbara’s last three novels have just been reissued in e-book and paperback form: SUSPICION, ROWING IN EDEN, and HINDSIGHT.

26 thoughts on “Top Ten Ways To Get Rejected By Your Dream Agent

    • Hi Tiffany,
      When I was an agent, we used to get some astonishing query letters. And after a while, it became clear that there was a negative correlation between the most boastful letters and the best writing. By boastful I don’t, of course, mean setting out your credits. If a writer has had short fiction published, for example, or has a twitter following of 10,000, it’s only sensible to let the agent know; those things can help her sell the book. I mean, rather, writers who praise their own work. So much better to let others offer the praise.

    • Hi Carolyn. Funny now, but during my 14 years as an agent I saw just about all those pointers put into practice. People get desperate and feel they’re not being heard or respected. The trouble is, a writer can pour as much of himself into a bad book as a good one, and agents are on the front line. They get a lot of undeserved flack, but maybe also some that’s not so undeserved. Personally, I don’t like the “No reply means no” policy some have adopted, though I understand the reasons for it.

  1. Hi Barbara. I do know Pam and was horrified when she tweeted about the attack. Fortunately, she’s fine, though furious. One lesson she learned was not to have her location on Four Square or any other location program.

    • Hi Ella, thanks for stopping by. I’m so glad Pam’s all right. It’s a salutary lesson about over-sharing, but which of us hasn’t made that mistake some time or another? And there’s this constant pressure on writers to be out there, sharing, being accessible. Privacy is becoming a quaint concept…does that sound curmudgeonly?

  2. Scary stuff! I bet it’s tempting sometimes to reply to the crazies – the ones that send in letters anyway. But there’s no way to get through to them, of course…

  3. Amazing reading about the coincidence of the frightening experience Pam had and your new book which will be coming out in July 1913. If I remember correctly you have experienced this type of coincidence before on another book you wrote. Hope you will now take your two large dogs with you when you are out and about.

  4. I remember seeing this on twitter when it happened. I had no idea people actually sent threatening letters to agents. It’s horrifying. That said though, the top 10 was really funny.

    • Well, people do tend to take rejection personally, and to paranoid types, an agent can come to seem like the epitome of those forces conspiring against them. Luckily there aren’t many of them about. Anyway, I’m glad you got a smile out of the list.

  5. Terrible what happened to her. A wake up call for the rest of us. The very first thing that popped in my head when I heard this awful story was what Valerie Solanis did to Andy Warhol. Artists have the same problem with…ahem…”persistent” people with a “great idea”.

    I very much enjoyed your post. I think you hit every “red light” with humor. 🙂

    • Hi Kathy, glad you enjoyed it. And yes, humorous as the piece makes it seem, stalking of this sort is a real problem. I don’t know any agent who doesn’t have stories about inappropriate approaches. One agent I know was handed a ms. at her husband’s funeral.

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  7. Is there a larger than normal percentage of unstable people in writing? I can’t see bank people getting this treatment and often there is more at stake in their decisions. Maybe it’s because writers are alone so much. Or because we live in fantasy worlds.

    • Hi Brenda! Well, if you think about it, just about everyone who believes they have a direct pipeline to God or a revelation for the world wants to get the word out, and many of them write books. Plus, among those writers who are sane to begin with are those who lost it due to the stress of repeated rejections. So I’d answer your question with a yes.

  8. Thanks for reposting this. I’d recently seen an agent complaining vociferously on Twitter about someone who had queried with this idea – and many agents joining in to say how inappropriate it was, but I myself thought it sounded like a great, chilling idea. Very ‘Misery.’ I’ll check out your book which I hadn’t heard of.

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